A way of thanking female neighbours and friends for their gifts by putting them on display.   It was held in the bride’s home for two days, both in the afternoon and evening.  A wide selection of home baking was served along with sandwiches and tea.

Bridals were considered to be community property.  It was important that everyone had the opportunity to participate.  Parents of friends and neighbours gave wee mindings or small gifts.  In the Highlands, handcrafted wooden and wickerwork items such as cogs, tongs, and horn spoons were often specially made.

The money paid to the Kirk for calling the banns was known as cryin’ siller.  The word wed means pledge.  Those wishing to marry had to leave a pledge or a pawn, either money or clothing, which was forfeited if a penny wedding with music and dancing took place, as the Church disapproved.

Leap year offered ladies the chance to propose.  If the chosen suitor refused, he had to buy the lady a new dress or a pair of kid gloves.  A betrothal was as legally binding as a marriage.  If a breach of promise occurred, such as when an engagement or bethrothal was broken, the lady could sue in court for recompense.

In Shetland, the young hopeful arrived at the door of his intended.  He was invited in and placed a small parcel on the box bed. He approached the family and shook hands with them all in turn.  He ignored his prospective bride and the hints given by her relations that they know why he has called.